It’s been a long while since I posted something that wasn’t coupon, deal, or grocery store related. It’s time for a post about control.
I like being in control.
No, really.
I know that will come as an enormous shock to some of you, but I really do prefer it. I like to be in control of my house, my finances, and most especially my kids.
When I went back to work outside of the house full time in June, I knew I would have to give up some control. Okay, a lot of control. Jamey and I had a routine before that point. And it’s taken some time for us to find a new routine.
One that works for everyone.
Now, Jamey gets picked up by the school bus at our house. He goes to preschool during the morning. His teacher, Miss K and her two aides are fantastic with him. They have a routine, and it works. When the routine has to change, Jamey needs time to adjust.
Jamey might possibly have some control issues, too. 😉
Then, Jamey rides the school bus to the daycare. He eats lunch, has a nap, and then a snack. If the weather’s nice, they play outside, too. Either Mommy or Daddy comes to pick him up, and Jamey navigates from his car seat in the back. He actually knows which way is home, so don’t try to trick him. Really.
We’ve had some adjustment issues at the daycare. Teacher changes, staff changes, and routine changes. But they’re working on it.
I’ve done a lot of letting go. I can’t control everything he puts into his mouth when he’s not with me. I can’t afford to stay home with Jamey, not if we want to have extras. At this point, all I can do is educate his teachers on why we do what we do and hope that they follow the guidelines.
This parenting gig is hard, y’all.
But so very worth it. When Jamey first was tested to enter the school district, he had about 15-20 words. Now? We’re knocking at 100. He’s a sociable, active, excitable little boy who plays appropriately with his peers (most of the time). He’s working on using the potty all of the time. I am so very proud of him.
We just keep moving forward.
Kristin
I’m so glad Jamey is doing so well! It sounds like he is really flourishing.
I think it’s hard as moms in general to give up any “control” when it comes to our kids. A bit like letting the little birdy find their wings. It’s necessary in just about every case, but that doesn’t mean it’s not terribly bittersweet.
Hugs to you mama!
Thank you, Heather! I think it’s harder too with Jamey because he can’t tell me all the time when something is wrong. Plus, I spent more time at home with him than either of my other two kids. They went to daycare at 3 months and 5 months old.
Hugs back!